I hear my clients repeat this quite often in conversations with me – ‘I am an emotional fool’ or ‘I need to be more practical, Medha, and I’ve never been the kinds’.
When the winds of emotion rise, the mind often believes it has lost its ground. We say, “I am overwhelmed,” as if wisdom has quietly exited the room, leaving us alone with the storm. But this is often a misunderstanding that creates unnecessary distance between what we feel and what we know.
On the path of inner cultivation, emotions are not obstacles to wisdom; they are its raw material. The first time I realised this was when I gave birth to my son. Amidst a million emotions, I felt this Herculean power rise from the depths of core, reminding me that being a caregiver – the softer gender and a doting mom, didn’t mean that I lost all my powers. Instead, I remember feeling like Goddess Paravati, who, while being the gentle nurturer is also the demon slayer, all at once. In that moment, my emotions weren’t an obstacle, they were my super power. It was my tsunami of emotions that showed me the way; where to exert my power and where to hold back, where to negotiate and where to put my foot down.
That’s when I realised that I am not a young girl anymore. I am a woman who has finally given her emotions a seat at the table and she need to apologize for it. They aren’t too much and they also don’t take away my abundant ‘cool’ quotient.
You see, every emotion carries energy. Anger has clarity, sadness has depth, fear has alertness, and joy has openness. When unexamined, these energies move chaotically, like a river overflowing its banks. But when met with gentle awareness, they become the very current that carries wisdom forward.
At Tender Wisdom, I do not ask you to suppress your emotions or rise above them. Instead, I invite you to sit beside them. To listen. To notice their texture, their rhythm, their message. It takes a while to really make peace with this new circle you create for your private moments but this friendship can last long and become your greatest ally over time.
When emotions are high, it is not that wisdom runs low, it is that wisdom becomes quieter. More subtle. It waits for you to turn toward it, not away.
I might seem like the kinds who is always very calm and well put-togerher because I pursue a profession that relys on my level-headedness but it’s not often so. I’m human and I do face disappointments in life, like everyone else. Often, in my brief moments of anger, there is a precise knowing of what feels unjust. In grief, I try my best to hear the intimate whispers of what truly matters. Over time, I have realised that these are not signs of losing wisdom; they are doorways into it.
The training, then, is not to eliminate emotion, but to befriend it.
Pause when the wave rises. Feel it fully in the body without rushing to act. I believe it is totally ok to feel miserable, as if you are at rock bottom. Let the mind rest within the experience rather than spinning stories around it. In that space, something remarkable happens…the sharpness of emotion begins to soften into clarity. Sometimes its quick to happen and sometimes it takes days or even months. Please know that evolution is not a high-speed train. It takes time to sink in, to enmesh itself with your being.
Wisdom does not come from controlling the storm, but from learning how to stand within it, slowly and consistently. This is exactly how you can turn your mind into an ally – by recognizing that even in moments of intensity, the mind is not your enemy. It is simply untrained energy, waiting to be guided with compassion and presence. It has taken me a ton of breathing practices, meditation sessions, mind and vocabulary training to reach here. You are not born with it. You cultivate it. So don’t even try to master it in the first attempt. Give it all your patience and time, it is a life long pursuit.
In my experience your emotions are not detours from your spiritual path, they are the path. When you walk it with pride, you’ll find the world gravitating towards you, learning from you and respecting your ways.
So, the next time you find yourself saying,
“My emotions are too much”
Slow down.
Listen deeply.
And gently ask instead:
“What wisdom is trying to emerge through this?”
And then, with patience, allow the answer to unfold.
Written by Medha — an award-winning celebrity astrologer, researcher, teacher, and speaker. If you’d like to explore how the stars shape your unique path, reach out to her for a personal consultation.
